There’s an illness running rampant in our country, and you may have seen (or even experienced) a case or two recently. It’s a disease called the “Yes, Buts!” Common to people NOT living their lives with heart and soul, its primary symptom involves settling for the status quo, even though that status quo may be very painful.
Other signs of the “disease” include a resistance to overcoming obstacles and an emphasis on developing valid-sounding excuses to justify inaction. Let’s take a light-hearted look at this problem and what can be done to treat it!
About Susan Whitcomb
The respected authority on career training and certification, Susan is founder of The Academies coach training organization (http://www.TheAcademies.com), including Career Coach Academy, Job Search Academy, Christian Coach Academy, and Leadership Coach Academy, where hundreds have earned their certifications in career coaching, job search strategy, Twitter, and branded career communications. Susan’s passion is equipping career professionals with the competencies and confidence to make a living at what they love!
Susan’s Coaching Suggestions
1. Write out, draw a picture or create a collage showing what you really, really want in your life/work.
2. Post this description some place where you’ll see it regularly.
3. For a short period of time (4-5 days), observe your mind and heart’s response! Be aware of your internal “chatter” about this vision … where are the “yes-buts” coming up? Note them specifically.
4. After your observation period, take some time to look at the “yes-buts” and rewrite “yes-ands” for each one. For example, “yes, but I don’t have the money to do this” can become “yes, and we could sell our second car and get by on one” or “yes, and I could get a part-time job working virtually in the evenings to help save money for this.”
1. Identify one step that you will take in the next three days that will take you closer to your ideal life/work.
2. Enlist support: you are seven times more likely to succeed with an accountability partner at your side. Trained coaches are the best for this process!
3. Put a perseverance plan in place. Here are several questions to keep you focused:
* What do you need to say “no” to?
* What do you need to reprioritize?
* What will happen if you don’t devote time to this?
* How much time will it take you to ______[fill in blank with an important task for your purposeful life]? Where is that time in your schedule? When’s the best time of day to do that task?
* Where do you notice the “yes-buts” creeping back into your thinking? This may be your conscience/ego working to keep you safe. Acknowledge the “yes-buts” then start LOOKING for the provision for your need. It’s out there!
* Who do you need to become to step into this new way of being/living/working?
Susan’s Quote for the Day
“The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide that you are not going to stay where you are.” ~John Pierpont Morgan
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