We crave to be forgiven. We struggle to forgive. But surely those are personal matters. Does forgiveness (or “unforgiveness”) affect our professional success?
I don’t know about you, but I’ve never been very good about segregating my personal life from my professional life. I am who I am in whatever I do. If I’m holding on to some grudge, it stays with me whether I’m bathing the dog or composing a blog post. If I’ve offended somebody (colleague or total stranger), I’m “tore up inside” until it’s resolved…not much good for anything else.
As Edwene Gaines states in her book The Four Spiritual Laws of Prosperity, “All sorts of studies indicate that negative thoughts, feelings, words, and behaviors affect our mental and physical health, our success, and our self-worth. An unwillingness to forgive is like stabbing ourselves with a knife and expecting the person who did us wrong to feel the pain.” Forgiveness is Edwene’s Third Spiritual Law of Prosperity. If we refuse to forgive, she says, we cannot feel truly worthy of having the best God can give us; we cannot—and will not—accept God’s gifts. Extrapolating a bit, I say we cannot—and will not—achieve success if we don’t make forgiveness a daily practice. Note: I’m talkin’ about forgiveness of others and oneself!
The themes of love and forgiveness run throughout the Bible. A sampling:
Luke 6:37: “Forgive and you will be forgiven.”
Colossians 3: 13: “Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”
Ephesians 4:32: “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”
If I refuse to love and forgive myself…if I refuse to love and forgive you…, then I’m at risk of closing myself off to receive the peace, joy, and prosperity that God longs to bestow upon me. Seems like a no-brainer. Why risk it????
Allow the releasing power of forgiveness to change your heart.
And success will surely follow.
Ann says
love this, Jory! so much wisdom:)
Jory Fisher says
Thanks for reading and reflecting, Ann. Your feedback means a lot to me.
So nice to hear from you!
xxoo
Jory
Nancy Shields says
Excellent post my friend Jory! Mother Teresa has stated that forgiveness is an act of self love – so true!
My ritual when I want to forgive is to put the person in the palm of my hands in my happy place and wish them light and love –
Powerful!
In gratitude,
Nancy
Jory Fisher says
That is beautiful, Nancy!!!! Love that! I’ll remember to do it the next time (and I’m sure there will be a next time) I get miffed with somebody. I have a feeling I’ll be envisioning my self in the palm of my hand as well!!!!
xxoo
Jory
Diane Markins says
Why is it that forgiveness is so difficult but feels so wonderful when we’ve given/received it? Thanks for this post, Jory!
Jory Fisher says
Seems like we want to hang on to our humanity with all our might even though, by releasing our grip, we become more of whom God created us to be.
You’ve heard the story of the monkey who just won’t let go of the banana even though, by releasing his grip, he would be set free…..
Thanks for your insight, Diane!
xxoo
Jory