As soon as I finish writing this blog post (and mopping the kitchen floor), I head out to Seneca, South Carolina to celebrate the life of my cousin’s husband, Alan Gates, who died unexpectedly and well before his time. I anticipate a beautiful tribute to an accomplished, caring, committed pilot and entrepreneur who served his country, family, community, and friends with conviction, passion, and pride.
When I first start working with clients on discerning their life purpose, two questions I ask them to consider are (1) what legacy do you wish to leave, and (2) what message do you want your obituary or epitaph to convey. Another perspective is….
What will The Hyphen between your date of birth and date of death represent? A life of meaning, joy, focus, service, and passion?
For me to answer such questions, it helps to consider the legacy of my parents who died in 1999. My mother taught me to laugh, create, love animals, and appreciate the wonder and beauty of nature. My father instilled in me a deep desire to know God; to love my family; to serve my fellow man with deep humility; to treat all people with utmost respect; and to press forward against all odds (son of a donkey farmer, Dad rose to the ranks of Commodore of the U.S. Navy’s Service Force Sixth Fleet).
What legacy do I wish to pass on to my daughters? What do I want my life to stand for?
I’ll share the answers with you as long as you promise you’ll write out your own answers over the next 24 hours. Deal?
When people gather to celebrate the life of Jory Hingson Fisher…when my children reflect on the essence of their mom…, I want them to remember me as a person who:
1. Loved God and family with her whole heart and soul and mind and strength
2. Served her fellow man with deep humility and who treated all persons with utmost respect
3. Laughed and created and loved animals and appreciated the wonder and beauty of nature
4. Pressed forward even when challenges seemed insurmountable
5. Strove to become a good and faithful servant—to become the person God intended her to be
6. Knew her God-given purpose and lived it with conviction, clarity, commitment, passion, and joy
7. Experienced heaven on earth because of her relationship with Jesus, her Good Shepherd, who welcomes her graciously into His fold
And you? How do you want us to celebrate your life?