In their previous episode, Jory and co-host Jennifer Miller explored what boundaries are and how they can look in both personal and professional settings. In this episode, they continue the conversation about boundaries, shifting their attention to learning how to communicate and enforce boundaries. It is one thing to decide where to “draw the line” and quite another to then “hold the line.” How do you express the boundaries they you have chosen for yourself and your relationship with other people without coming across as rude or selfish or mean?
Jory and Jennifer will explore a few different strategies for effectively enforcing boundaries, even with the most strong-willed of people or in the most frustrating of relationships. They even share how to hold the line when you have chosen some limits for yourself, including decisions on your relationship with food and work. You don’t want to miss this exciting conclusion to their discussion of boundaries.
About Jennifer Miller
Jennifer Miller is a Christian pastor, counselor, and author who has dedicated her career to helping individuals, couples, and families strengthen their faith and their relationships.
Her new book, “No Longer Two: A Guide to How God Created Men, Women, and Marriage,” available on Amazon, is a compilation of all the wisdom she has gained and shared over the years on what truly makes relationships work.
In addition to teaching and writing on marriage and family topics, she serves as the Co-Executive Director of The Center for Living Well, a nonprofit Christian wellness ministry, based in Phoenix, Arizona with divisions in Canada and Michigan.
Learn more about Jennifer at www.nolonger2.com and www.centerforlivingwell.org.
Jennifer’s Success Tips
~ Once you have decided where to draw a boundary, practice how you are going to maintain it and enforce it with others. Try one of the strategies shared by Jory and Jennifer which allows you to communicate effectively, yet authentically.
~ Avoid riding the pendulum of boundary enforcement, swinging from soft and passive to harsh and aggressive. Find the middle ground of expressing yourself with quiet strength, with assertiveness.
~ Be patient when trying to implement new boundaries in an existing relationship. It took time for the current dynamic to develop and it will take time to implement a new dynamic. Remember that it is like turning around an ocean-liner, not a speedboat.
Jennifer’s Quote of the Day
“We are tethered to the story we must tell.” ~ Ryan O’Neal
Listen to Jory and Jennifer by clicking the audio player below.
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Piano music by David Nevue.
Hi Jory! I love your show. For some reason the last two Heart & Soul podcast are not available. Do you have any idea why?
Hi Terri! Thank you for your encouraging comment and for letting me know. Which shows are you referring to, and do you mean on BlogTalkRadio or here on my personal website?
I love that you and Jennifer have teamed up! Two great minds and hearts can only result in a terrific outcome.
Diane
What a sweetheart. Thank you, dear Diane.
Jennifer is a beautiful soul. We do have a lot of fun together for sure!