Shhhh. Silence the sounds around you. Reflect, and reflect deeply. “Who am I?” A question calling for an answer. Can you hear it?
As service-providing entrepreneurs, we must know ourselves well if we are to reach our full potential as business owners. We must know ourselves well if we are to make the difference we’re here on earth to make. Though it may sound like a contradiction, focused self reflection helps us serve others with excellence.
Focused self reflection helps us find, follow, and fulfill our divine calling.
“It is necessary … for a man to go away by himself … to sit on a rock … and ask, ‘Who am I, where have I been, and where am I going?”
Do you know who you are, where you’ve been, and where you’re going? We often get so caught up in the “doing” that we fail to carve out time to sit on a rock, or walk along the beach, and reflect. At least I do. Maybe you’re different.
I recall a time in law school when I was so caught up in “doing” that the assistant rector of my church, a short fellow with a red bushy beard, took me aside and said, “Jory, just BE.” He introduced me to the works of Henri J.M. Nouwen and gently yet urgently suggested that I embark on an even deeper inner journey of my soul. He told me that God loved me unconditionally–that I didn’t have to do anything to earn His love or to pay Him back for all of the grace bestowed upon me. I did, however, need to spend significant time in self reflection, contemplating who I am as a child of God. Only then, he said, would I be able to serve others with excellence and fulfill my purpose here on earth.
I wish I could tell you it’s been an easy journey…. that just a few sessions of rock sitting and beach walking did the trick… that after just a few sessions I knew exactly who was looking back at me in the mirror and exactly how I could serve others best. I wish I could…or do I?
There’s something magical about the process of self-discovery, about the process of self-reflection. Though our God-given purpose doesn’t change, our understanding of it does. When we stop asking the questions, we run the risk of trying to take charge of our own lives or living a day-to-day superficial existence. Hmmm. Sounds dreadful. More rock sitting please.
To get started, carve out time alone with God on a regular basis… on a rock, at the beach, in your garden, on your sofa… to seek answers to these timeless questions:
- Who am I at my core?
- Whom am I meant to serve?
- How am I meant to serve them?
- What gifts and strengths do I have to offer?
- What effect do my gifts and strengths have on those I’m serving?
- What problem am I meant to solve –> what is my mission at this stage of my life?
Ask. Listen. Reflect. Serve.
And please, if you would be so kind, come back to share your insights in the comment box below. Your words may be exactly what my readers and I need to hear.
“So I say to you: Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks the door will be opened.” Luke 11: 9-10
May the Lord bless you and keep you and be gracious unto you.