You may have heard that good fences make good neighbors, but, good fences can make for good anything. Fences help define things clearly and that is exactly what all of us need for ourselves and our relationships. In this episode, Jory and co-host Jennifer Miller, explore what boundaries are and how they can look in professional settings. How do you define your role and clarify the limits of the professional relationship?
They then shift the discussion toward more personal settings. How do we define relationships with friends and family? Especially when many relationship problems stem from lacking boundaries or having poor boundaries. Jory and Jennifer will also dive into the issue of control. What do each of us actually get to control? Too often, we find ourselves over-reaching and trying to control others or we allow others to over-reach and control things for us. Join them as they delve into this very important topic of knowing where to draw the line.
About Jennifer Miller
Jennifer Miller is a Christian pastor, counselor, and author who has dedicated her career to helping individuals, couples, and families strengthen their faith and their relationships.
Her new book, “No Longer Two: A Guide to How God Created Men, Women, and Marriage,” available on Amazon, is a compilation of all the wisdom she has gained and shared over the years on what truly makes relationships work.
In addition to teaching and writing on marriage and family topics, she serves as the Co-Executive Director of The Center for Living Well, a nonprofit Christian wellness ministry, based in Phoenix, Arizona with divisions in Canada and Michigan.
Jennifer’s Success Tips
~ Just start with awareness. Stop and really think about what your definitions lines are for who you are, as well as for your relationships.
~ Take an inventory of your boundaries. Do you have clear boundaries? Do I find “muddy waters” anywhere? Then, start to bring some clarification into the situation. Get clear about where you want to draw some lines and put down some limits.
~ Do your best to remain within your “circle of control,” seeking to control only that which you can actually control – your own thoughts, feelings, and choices. Refrain from over-reaching into another person’s circle of control. Instead, focus upon maximizing your influence which allows you to honor the other person while still expressing yourself.
Jennifer’s Quote of the Day
“To know and not to do is really not to know.” ~ Stephen Covey
Listen to Jory and Jennifer by clicking the audio player below.
Piano music by David Nevue.